The Unstoppable Power Of Letting Go.
Forgiveness is the price to pay for joy and inner healing…
According to Mareez Reyes; “One of the hardest life lessons is letting go. Whether it’s guilt, anger, love, loss, or betrayal. Change is never easy.
We fight to hold on and we fight to let go. If you’ve been hurt until it breaks your soul into pieces, your perspective in life will change, and no one and nothing in this world could ever hurt you again.”
Have you heard that saying that goes like — if you could go through pain, and heal yourself without the assistance of anyone or doing what the world says, but taking your time and enjoying the process, nothing you can’t take on and it’s true because you lived it and so you know what it feels like and you have learned lessons that would help you through others?
I’ve learned so much from holding on, but even more, from letting go;
Holding on, Is letting yourself go through the thought processes, the feeling of pain, and the light of realization and that’s when you decide to let go, what makes it worst for most of us is that we choose to dwell on the feeling of pain and we stay in the dark even when there is a light shining through the darkroom in us. As is often the case with matters of the heart, you will know deep down within yourself when it’s time let go when it’s time to turn the page, and a quick gut check and sobering words of wisdom from trusted friends or great thinkers can provide all the assurance you need.
Letting go, Is giving yourself total freedom and you become unstoppable.
“ We must learn to accept ourselves, love ourselves, and keep moving forward because If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.”
A lot of times we hold on to the relationship we are in, material things, people even if it hurts, we still choose to hold on to them because of our insecurities and fear of being alone, starting over, and being the bad one (what people have to say matters to you).
“But the truth is unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
Letting go equals resting and not giving up.
- Rest from looking backward,
- And, accept the light within.
There is more to life than being attached to pain and suffering. You deserve to be happy again.
The hardest part of letting go is finally realizing that there wasn’t much to hold on to.
Your peace is more important than driving yourself crazy trying to understand why things had to happen and what’s worst is the fact that no one asks if you are okay or cares about your answers!
Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone or something anymore, It just means that you realize that the only thing you truly have control over is yourself. It doesn’t mean you wanted to, it just means that you had to. You had to because letting go is a necessary process of adapting to the ever-changing realities of life.
These five statements helped me through my letting go process:
- “In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.” – Deepak Chopra
- “A bridge can still be built, while the bitter waters are flowing beneath.” – Anthony Liccione
- “Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head.” – Ann Landers
- “Change has to come for life to struggle forward.” – Helen Hollick
- “You don’t lose the things you let go of, you lose the things you cling on to”. — Buddha
Letting go is God’s law
I hope these statements help you through.
What’s that story holding you back?
We all have that heartbreaking stories and happy ones that we attach our perspective of life to it even, and some of them hold us from accepting change so you have to understand that “stories” do not mean “fake stories.” It also does not mean “true stories.” The word “story” in the context of your self-evaluation doesn’t have to imply true or false, positive or negative, or any other kind of forceful judgment call. It’s simply a process that’s happening inside your head:
- You are remembering something that happened.
- You subconsciously perceive yourself as a victim of this incident.
- Your memory of what happened causes a strong emotion in you.
So just notice what story you have, without judging it, and without judging yourself.
It’s natural to have a story; we all have stories. See yours for what it is. And see that it’s causing you pain. Then take a deep breath, and move from it.
Here are 5 powers to help you in letting go:
1. Let go of taking things personally;
You have to understand that if someone treats you badly, it is not your fault but their insecurities.
Read my previous writing on the 2 powerful ways of dealing with rejections…
I know the situation where you expect something from someone so dear and they keep giving you the same excuse or you receive harsh treatment even for the things you did right. These situations don’t have anything to do with you or your shortcomings because once someone feels insecure about something you are good at, they tend to hurt you, but in reality, they tend to protect you from something bad for you.
2. Let go of what people think;
Never allow the opinions of others to influence yours. What kills us all is our inability to think positively about an incident that triggered our ego because some incident happens as a message to us on something.
3. Let go of trying to be something you are not;
There is no other you in the world, appreciate who you are, love you, and improve where you think needs improvement but don’t be hard on you because you have your whole life to prove you to yourself.
4. Let go of not yet;
If you have something to do, why not do it now?
Make every day count.
5. Let go of the things making you unhappy;
Happiness is something you own yourself.
Seek happiness even in the face of adversity.
I know at the end you might be wondering why I said letting go makes you unstoppable?
Flashback to any revengeful movie you have watched, how did the protagonist of the movie survive?
Comment down, I would like to know your thoughts on how you let go of things?