The one (1) mirror that sucks…
Is the mirror worthy? A question I ask….
Everyone has that mirror that sucks and what is worst is that we keep looking through it, allowing it to never stop coming back in our minds.
Some people find it easy to let go of that mirror that sucks and move but some people have a good memory that never let go of even a single event that happens in the mirror go and they keep thinking about it like it was a looked an hour ago.
The mirror can be hard to move on from after it is broken and we make it more difficult by letting the pieces cut us.
Like I get the fear. We are all scared of that same awful experience reoccurring again and then we start picturing the worst scenario of the what-if this and that, what if the mirror incident happens again.
And then we condition our brain and body to the broken mirror and brace ourselves for the future you expect to be the worst just like in the SURVIVAL "you prepare for the worst". You condition your brain your whole life looking around the corner waiting for it to happen again.
And the mirror here; Is your mind reoccurring the past….
Most times we see people lash out at every spillover and we just judge them forgetting that they might be acting externally what they feel internal.
Here, the best way to help this kind of people is to;
- Be kind
- Show them they matter.
- Listen to them with an understanding of their feelings and not for a response. Most times people don’t need your words but your ear.
"Every action begins with a thought, and if you don't watch what you're thinking, your thoughts will get the best of you" by Daniel Beaty.
And that's why great leaders decide whether they will be defined by the version of the future or the mirror of the past.
Confront your mirror:
- You have to let it out.
Just because you don't confront it, doesn't mean it's not a part of us.
2. Be truthful to yourself because transformation is all about authenticity.
3. Fall in love more with yourself.
Because you have to focus more on yourself than the potential outcome you want to achieve.
When you fall in love even with the divided part of you, it does change the way you walk into space.
Always remember that our inner strength lays in our ruins. The only thing stopping you is the voices that lay within your ears.
I know these approaches won't stop the mirror from breaking but your responses to them are what makes the difference…. You sit there and let it cut you or you move from it.
Shits happens every day…
So what you say to yourself matters, you have to be gentle with yourself because healing is a process and not a magical thing.
You have to make gratitude a daily routine for yourself just like in relationships, you don't meet someone one day and they become your forever.
You have to put in the work on yourself, your perspective, and your daily activities. If they suck…. Then do something to make it exciting for yourself.
We spend most of our time in our mind, make it a nice place to be.
" You have to take care of the new mirror". What you plan to do, you do better at it because you are strong, wonderful, and much more. The only limitations are in your psyche.
Also, you can't heal from the broken mirror or whatever you feel right now if you try to hurt others to make yourself feel good. That makes you feel less.
All you need is to reframe your thoughts to accept and love the situation of the mirror because only love can lead you to freedom.
Get comfortable with the uncomfortable and keep putting the effort to change and create a beautiful mirror for you.
NOTE :
During your healing process, you will suck but don't give up because you deserve to be happy.
People will try to hurt you, throw hurtful words at you but you need to stand firm knowing what your end goal is and knowing how important it is to you.
Giving up is not an option.
You have to replace the mirror that sucks with a positive thinking.
We are all broken so we always gonna fuck up and that's why we need to learn and forgive every day because it reduces anger and increases perceptive taking.
